When I first started attending Science Fiction Conventions there were artists I admired. I got to know some of these artists. One of them: I got to know quite well. In fact, he had me invited to the British world con, Conspiracy, in 1987 by the art show director. He also gave me instructions to take Virgin Atlantic. I never would have gone to this convention if I had not been invited with a personal hand written letter, free panels and free membership. I thought somehow I had gotten in by my good works. I was mislead.
When I got to the convention I ran into the artist and we spent time together.
I was a very young naive girl. I was in my twenties. Here was an exciting time to be in SF, full of dreams about my future. I went to show my work, to get inspiration from a well respected
illustrator and to meet others. But being unaware, the whole point of inviting me was to
take advantage of a very young girl. I played into the hands of wolves.
Despite this, I moved on, even became friends with the wolf. My hopes, to get help in my career, to learn, to advance. I did this despite this friendship. I helped the wolf and the wolf told me about his other conquests. The wolf never helped me. In later years, I heard from several women who fell under his spell. Not sure what happened to them, but I know their careers never went anywhere.
The last insult after 25 years of a somewhat one sided friendship with the wolf was being accused of wrongdoing by his wife. Strange. I had not seen the wolf in years, I just suffered the continued annoyance of hearing about his alcoholism and his sexual exploits with other very young women via email. I even suggested that he get psychological counseling. He did, only he told me he went once and was cured. Then he resumed having affairs.
I got angry when I was attacked by the wolf's wife. I had had enough of this. I barraged the wolf with anger and rightly so. For this I was attacked back, insulted and accused of stalking.
I will acknowledge being a very young girl who stupidly allowed an older guy to take advantage of me years and years ago. But, I don't like being accused of things that I have not done. I have the right to speak the truth and be heard. If anyone wants to to talk to me about any of this, please contact me. You can consider this as my "me-too" moment and there were others. This type of behavior in fandom needs to stop, it has gone on long enough.